Ep 040: Feel The Pull

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:00:04

Ever wonder what success actually means?

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:07

How do you get it?

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:00:08

And how do you keep it?

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:10

We all want it yet sometimes it feels only some of us get to have it.

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:00:14

Hi, Teresa Blair here. We are two badass entrepreneurs, bestselling authors, coaches and business mentors, who have had success filled success, questioned our own success and reclaimed it. Let's be real for a hot minute. 2020 has been a roller coaster ride, and many of us have started to wonder if they'll lose the things that made them successful. So we got curious, Ron real about what success is truly about?

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:41

Can you put it in a box? How can you get it? Can people take it away? Or are you the one with the power?

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:00:48

Does it mean the same to all of us? Or are we the ones that create it?

Theresa Lambert: 00:00:52

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Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:01:31

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Theresa Lambert: 00:01:48

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Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:01:53

ready to give your business the momentum you desire. Head to Teresa Lambert coaching comm backslash momentum to secure your coveted spots. Welcome back. Here we are Episode 40 of dissecting success. And today we're talking about alignment. And we think it's really cool because we were just jamming on what we want to focus on having some conversations about what's going on in our businesses. And then the word dropped in alignment. And then Theresa say, wow, this is Episode 40. So that is very aligned. So Theresa, why don't we start off with like, what is alignment? What does alignment mean to you? Because there's various definitions. And like, sorry, I should probably like, you know, I googled the definition. And the first one that comes up is arrangement in a straight line. And I think that's bullshit, because nothing in business is in a straight line. But the definition of alignments in a correct or appropriate relative position could make a bit more sense. But again, those are really boring and vanilla definition. So it's like what is alignment?

Theresa Lambert: 00:03:04

Yeah, alignment is definitely not just when you said that I always fell over, I was like, straight line, it was like, there was no alignment. Okay, like there was no alignment between the official dictionary description of alignment and my idea of alignment, like, zero, it's more like, it's more like a bundle of joy.

Theresa Lambert: 00:03:36

No alignment. God, I feel like there's so many layers of alignment, you know, there is alignment, that I have been more learning about in terms of really aligning your desires and your, you know, your vision with the frequency in which they can be found, which is very deep. And that's something that I'm really just sort of more and more like studying. But for me what I have always found alignment, like if I would have to define it like for myself, I would really say that, for me, alignment is the connection, or the red Fred that connects our actions based on the vision that we have for our life. And I base that vision on how we desire to feel ultimately and then set goals like I reverse engineer them backwards from how I want to feel rather than, you know setting the goal and then having a goal determined not and then basically once I know how I desire to feel ultimately in this vision, yesterday's goals, yesterday's things in it, but every day, what actions I can take intentionally to move me towards that even if it's just an inch closer, and that to me is alignment and the There's a lot of work to be done because our mind just plays a lot of tricks with us and can go on the rabbit hole. And, and actually, when I wrote my book achieve with grace, I IVT went into the depths of your story and the stories we tell ourselves and how they impact the reality that we create, ultimately. And, yeah, that to me is a line like the way I have always looked at alignment or not always, but ever since I've gotten into the personal development world. And yeah, now learning that there is more alignment that we can do in terms of aligning with energetic frequencies to to I guess, supercharged up into the quantum

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:05:43

Whoo, you just got super philosophical there into the quantum I did, I am

Theresa Lambert: 00:05:49

a bit of a philosophical mind, you know, I always have been I, I studied philosophy at the university for one year.

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:06:01

What's quantum? What's the quantum?

Theresa Lambert: 00:06:04

My God? I mean, again, right, like, what's my understanding of the quantum You know, I think it's just energy. It's just an energy energetic field that connects everything. I'm actually bringing you back because I brought this up. So I was studying at the University of instruct, get Germany and studied philosophy and one of our professors and, and bless him, I forgotten his name. But it doesn't matter the story. So if you're listening to this at random, just know, I still think of you. He was talking about the concept of knowing, knowing something to happen. And so here's the example he gave us, he actually asked us, he's like, if you would not know that the sun's going to come up tomorrow. What would you do? Right, but it's like this a logical question. Because it's like, of course, the sun's gonna come up tomorrow. Like, I mean, hello. Like, it happens all the time. And he continued, and he's like, well, is it like, if you look at the clock, and it shows you 12 o'clock? Is it really 12? o'clock? Like, do you know that it's 12 o'clock? Or do you just trust that it's 12 o'clock. And so this was actually a very powerful lecture that always struck me, and I never really fully understood what the hell was going on. And I don't think any of us did, where he was going with that. But now, nearly two decades later, in business, I realized that everything is possible for us, like, there are so many life paths that we could have coming up. And there are certain things that we trust unconditionally, like the fact that it's 1258 on the clock, right now we trust it's 1258. And that is, in fact, correct. And in this moment in time, I see it's 1258. Or the fact that the sun comes up tomorrow. And so we don't doubt it. And so it happens unconditionally, like there was an unconditional trust we have in that to happen, right? And when it comes to business, we often doubt we doubt that things are possible, we've doubt that things can happen we get very logical and very attached to outcomes, and the more we do, the more resistance we often put in place. So if you study philosophy, if you listen to beautiful people like Deepak Chopra, have you read books like thinking Grow Rich, if you follow amazing people like Melanie and Leah, if you are Blair, Kaplan, Venables, a black Kaplan then it was, oh, if you, you know, Renee, Jace and Nick, who we had on the podcast, you know, um, there's so many people too many to mention vd, if you have listened to or read the untethered soul by Michael singer, right? Like there's so much but here's what I now understand to be true is that when we are focused on our process, and we're really having a big vision, that vision, like the memory off of that moment in time already exists in that quantum. So when we take action every day, and when we focus on our process, unconditionally, and trust that it's going to happen, that's when we can bring things into our life into our business Foster. And that's what I now understand. Some of these amazing mentors that I follow. I'm a part of talk about when they speak about collapsing time. So there's so many concepts around this but quantum is to me the quantum is really like it's everything. Is is literally To me, the quantum is everything, every all have the possibility of everything.

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:09:51

And I think that's brilliant, like I love the way you explain that. And back to alignment, alignment. Is the thread that threads everything together in that quantum. And I think what's really important for us to understand is that alignment is different for everyone. And knowing how we determine if we are aligned with that client aligned with that project aligned with that cause align with our extra curriculum aligned with basically everything in our lives. And how do we know like, how do we know if what we're doing is right? And how do we know if what we're doing is wrong? And I can tell you for sure that there are no right or wrong answers with this. But I know that one of the indications that I'm on the right path is that I'm excited. Ideas drop in, I have that passion. You know, I speak what I want to speak, I do what I want to do I create, I attract I build, I know when a client or a project isn't in alignment, because it feels like a chore. It's a drain, I feel it in my guts. I know. So and I think I'm better at knowing when something isn't in alignment with me then when it is. Yeah, I love that Blair, you

Theresa Lambert: 00:11:07

know, and I think something that you just said, I think is really important. Because I I feel that's the key. I feel not I think, right? Because our thoughts are like, you know, there's a lot that comes in and like you have years of studying this stuff. I you know, I can step back. But in order for me to make decisions that that feel aligned, I have to feel out the decision, not think for the decision. And it's so beyond what logic can comprehend sometimes. And I think it I think now I said it, but I believe that our intuition that gut feeling, you know, but when you just have this like it and we say this, right? Like we say this in it guarantee, like I would bet that every single person listening to this podcast episode right now would have set at least once in their life, I have a gut feeling. I have a gut feeling about x, right, I have a gut feeling about working with a client, I have a gut feeling about what my month is going to what's going to happen this month, right? I have a gut feeling about this. And I have to say that throughout my entire life, when I listened to my gut, it feels good. And that decision has always led to something magical, sometimes more magical than I could have even imagined. And I have to remind myself of that regularly. Because, you know, it's it's easy to turn that intuition off or to not feel things out. Because we've been taught to think things through make the list, you know, look at you Broadcom. And to me, that just doesn't work because I get so confused with everything that's coming in. So I literally connect to my gut, like feel this thing out. And when I feel out the choice when I feel out what's next when I feel dots when I find trust easier. And that's when it feels more aligned again, right. But then from that feeling, once I have no awareness of the feeling, I can then make a choice of what action I'm going to take. And that action generally then matches me with the path towards the vision or goal that I have.

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:13:30

Yeah, that's so right. And I think a big not I think I know a big part of alignment is the people in your life. So yes, there's goals and like tasks and projects. But let's talk about the people in your life. Let's talk about the alignment with the people in your life, right? You have as a person, maybe core values, maybe you've written these out, maybe you don't know, but like, for example, integrity, integrity is so important to me. And if I come across someone who wants to work with me, and I determined that they may not have the same level of integrity as I do, it's not the right fit. And sometimes I learned that a little bit down the road. Maybe I have a friend and the friend and I you know, we're just getting to know each other and they say something that puts off a red flag. red flags are really important. And so I think being aligned with the people around you, the people that you do business with your friends is so important because you spend a significant amount of time with these people in your sphere, whether you're following them on social media, recording podcast episodes with them, calling them when you're in like an emotional crisis. I don't really know. But I know that the people in my life I'm aligned with and I feel like there's power in alignment, like Teresa and I started this podcast because we were having brilliant conversations because we have alignment. And then because of the podcast, we started momentum and we started that because there is a lot of alignment and we attracted people into our first cohort of momentum because there is alignment, these people saw an opportunity to work with Teresa and myself so that we can help them give their business the momentum, it needs to move forward, because there is alignment. Right? And so how do you know if someone's aligned with you? How do you know? And maybe less spoke? Like, you know, some of you listening aren't entrepreneurs? Maybe? Maybe you are. But I guess speaking about entrepreneurs, because that's what Teresa and I both, you know, know, know really well is how do you know if you're an entrepreneur listening to this, if you're aligned? How do you know if you're aligned? For example, with me and Teresa, maybe you've heard us talk about momentum? And you're like, well, I wonder if I am aligned with Blair and Teresa, how do I know that Teresa? How would someone listening know if they're aligned with us?

Theresa Lambert: 00:15:50

Here's what I would say. What are you naturally drawn to? Like you drawn to come listen to this podcast every Tuesday. And it's like one of the things you excited about, maybe it's not even on a Tuesday, but you always come back to it. Like you're always feeling just called like something pulls you to let's listen, let's tune into what Theresa chatting on about whether it's getting shift faced or talking to some amazing people, whether they're going on about alignment or launching or all the like fun things we've spoken about right on this podcast. I think it's a it's a natural poll, like what do you naturally drawn to? What feels really easy? And you can also bring this into, you know, when you're when you're speaking with people, like, do you gel with the energy? Like, is there something about them that makes you want to be around them? And you might not even be able to explain this? You know, I can't always explain it. I can't always explain why I why I feel called to work with somebody I just do. And I don't question that poll. Right. And I think that's what we get, like, muddled up and while we fall out of alignment is because we're questioning the pull that we're having towards something, especially if we're like, does that make logical sense? In my business right now? Should I be investing this much? Right? Like, there's doors, those blocks coming through? These are the thoughts that a lot of the times when I do mindset works, that's where we dive into actually, you know, what's the thought that's coming in? And what is the action that you're taking in? And does that actually support you to achieve your goals like, that was my book, story, intention, energy, like daddy's like, my like methodology that I like, in the whole, like, taking all the complex teachings and everything. I broke it down into the most simple way for me, and then I shared it with you. But I think, you know, it's, it's that natural poll, so we'll pull towards something. And it's something that comes easily to us, like, our relationship, our business relationship is a prime example. for that. We felt a pull, I felt the pull to connect with you. In January 2020, about your book writing journey, because you will publishing your book, right, I felt called we had met several times throughout the years throughout the community to business community here in Whistler. I felt pulled to reach out. So I reached out and we had coffee, and we had a great conversation. And then I felt pulled to keep reaching out, and you kept reaching out. And then we kept just having chats. And not because we were looking for a new friend, or we're looking for business partnership, right, just because we felt pulled to reach out. That wasn't like, oh, today I have it on the calendar to reach out to Blair, right. And then we felt pulled after all these conversations to start the podcast. And we're like, oh, we should we have all these conversations about success. We should you know, it just without guilt to do this podcast together having no idea where I was going to lead us right, like an end, the only intention we had was that it's always going to be fun. And we've made every decision through this podcast, and but we've done after, okay, how are we going to do it? So it's fun. And then we felt pulled to work together and twice now I think I had somebody reach out to me and said, Well, so what you imply during the podcast and like the things like, like, how do you have this set up? Like how do you run this business partnership? Like Have you had like, did you decide who does what? And I'm like, No, it's just kind of

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:19:30

just like organic. It just all falls together. People ask me that, too. They're like, how did you entries to get into this? How are you guys coaching together and because trees have our own businesses, we focus on very different things, there is a bit of overlap. But but that gravity pull that alignment was so natural, and sometimes, you know, she picks up the slack. And sometimes I do a little bit of this or a little bit of that. You know, we both have real life going on and businesses and this is It's like a piece of our puzzle. But we're doing this purely, you know, driven by fun and momentum, which is like our passion. But actually I lied This podcast is our passion. Momentum is like a version of the passion, where we get to take everything we talked about and teach you how to build a business strategy that's going to uplevel your business. You know, it's all driven by fun. And as soon as it stops being fun, it's going to end so we're going to keep having fun. And part of that is going to be running another cohort of momentum. And that starts soon. And, you know, if you're curious about momentum you want to get in, we only have 10 spots available. We keep it very intimate. And you can learn more about it at Teresa Lambert coaching.com, backslash momentum. We have earlybird pricing on available right now. And it's gonna end at the end of September. So, you know, if you're just catching up to this, and it's already November, like you snooze, you lose. Why aren't you listening to us every week? Just kidding. And I know some of you do listen every week, and I love the messages and the comments that you know, we get from each of the episodes because our guests are quite dynamic and diverse. But you know, Teresa and I have had multiple five figure launches, I've had multiple five figure months, I've had five figure days. You know, I've been building my social media marketing business for over 13 years. My backgrounds in publicity. Like I will teach you what I know, I am an entrepreneur, I've been an entrepreneur since I was born. So what I talk about in my book, pulsing through my veins, Ron real stories from entrepreneur, but I will teach you what to do. And I will make sure you don't do what you shouldn't do, because I learned the hard way so you don't have to. and Theresa, she took a seven figure boutique hotel in Whistler to eight figures. Teresa knows what she's doing. So why not join us for that journey?

Theresa Lambert: 00:21:47

Yeah, and listen to the poll. Right, like listen to the poll, and part of being able to, to remain focused on your vision to keep working and put another foot in front of the other, you know, in this entrepreneurship journey, because it is a bloody roller coaster, right? Like, you know, there is no linear lineup, there is no climbing the entrepreneur ladder like that is bullshit. Like, yes, it's hard work doesn't mean you have to hustle. Yesterday's days, it sucks, doesn't mean it can't be fun. And the way you make it more fun is by working with people and surrounding yourself with people that you feel pulled towards. And that is like, troughs to pull. It's pulling you there. Because it's going to help you along that path to your vision that is taking an aligned action towards the vision you have towards the goal that you have to be having a thriving online business, a thriving service based business like to vt be able to do and, you know, live that live, like live your purpose, right? Like, this is what we're talking about here. Because I certainly don't wake up in the morning and be like, I'm gonna work, right. Like, I haven't felt like that in a long time. And some days have been Vidi Vidi shit, and I'm so grateful for the clients I get to work with for you know, Blair, because she's such a rock in my life and has become such a sounding board for me. And that's the other thing too, right? When you when you trust the people in your life, when you start having new sounding boards, like things shift, because you can say the thing that you're thinking that you don't feel comfortable saying because you dropped those people so much to hold that pain for you to hold that moment for you. And to just be like, Okay, can

Blair Kaplan-Venables: 00:23:38

you like you're gonna get through this right? And well, some days are tough. And so, you know, feel the pull, feel slow and take action on the poll, and we want to pull you in. And you know what, maybe momentum is not right maybe working with us in two to one coaching isn't right. But maybe downloading, you know, or signing up or subscribing for this podcast, is the perfect thing for you to do subscribing for our newsletters is enough for you right now. But we want to keep educating you we want to keep empowering you. And you know what you tuned in to the 40th Episode, The Big 404 D 40 4040. We're dancing but you can't see it. Um, you know, we're stoked that you're long for this journey. Let's cheers to 40 more. Here's to 40 more. And we're exciting. We're excited. We are exciting, and we're excited, exciting. Excited. We're excited that you are in alignment with us. So with that peace.